Love this share, Vanya. I was feeling your frustration throughout the entire travel fiasco. And I agree, so much of our life unfolds as a result of our early attachment and the causes and conditions of our life experience. My mother was 19, alone, pregnant with me in a foreign country, in a warzone. It definitely contributed to our lifetime of disconnect and my mother wound.
Thank you for opening this important conversation.
You mention that practices like meditation, vipassana, and therapy don’t truly make sense until we recognize, accept, understand, and process our childhood relational trauma. How do you actually do that? What does effective inner work look like in practice?
Thank you for the question. From my experience, the best way to do that is to find someone to help you unpack the dynamic with your caregivers and how it impacted you. A good therapist can recognize patterns and wounding (i.e., people who lost a parent or grew up too much under the influence of the mom, etc., would have developed specific adaptative or maladaptive behaviors, beliefs, fears, blocks). The work then is to complete what you couldn't as a child. (back then you didn't have the capacity to protect yourself, speak for yourself, etc) This could be through different types of therapies, including family constellations, Primal therapy, inner child work etc..Through those modalities you get to complete what has been fractured and hurt within you and learn how to shift unconscious beliefs, become more secure and let go of burdens you might be carrying.
Hope that makes sense :)
There's good books to read too! "It didn't start with you" is a good start!
Love this share, Vanya. I was feeling your frustration throughout the entire travel fiasco. And I agree, so much of our life unfolds as a result of our early attachment and the causes and conditions of our life experience. My mother was 19, alone, pregnant with me in a foreign country, in a warzone. It definitely contributed to our lifetime of disconnect and my mother wound.
Thank you for opening this important conversation.
Very well said, Vanya-Sofia! Thank you for sharing this wisdom.
Can’t wait for Pt 2!
Thank you so much for taking the time to read it ❤️ pt 2 is out :))(
You mention that practices like meditation, vipassana, and therapy don’t truly make sense until we recognize, accept, understand, and process our childhood relational trauma. How do you actually do that? What does effective inner work look like in practice?
Thank you for the question. From my experience, the best way to do that is to find someone to help you unpack the dynamic with your caregivers and how it impacted you. A good therapist can recognize patterns and wounding (i.e., people who lost a parent or grew up too much under the influence of the mom, etc., would have developed specific adaptative or maladaptive behaviors, beliefs, fears, blocks). The work then is to complete what you couldn't as a child. (back then you didn't have the capacity to protect yourself, speak for yourself, etc) This could be through different types of therapies, including family constellations, Primal therapy, inner child work etc..Through those modalities you get to complete what has been fractured and hurt within you and learn how to shift unconscious beliefs, become more secure and let go of burdens you might be carrying.
Hope that makes sense :)
There's good books to read too! "It didn't start with you" is a good start!